R/S remarks

R/S= relationship

If there's a line stating that all relationship will have problems, I would certainly be in full agreement to it.

Why?

I met mine in my relationship with my dear.

4 months may be too short to conclude anything, but it was long enough to get to know each other well enough. We have been together for nearly 4 months to be exact, and in fact, we known each other earlier .

Problems are always there, and I seek to solve them. I don't believe people in leaving the problem aside, or simply ignoring the existence of even the slightest crack.
The truth is a hairline crack could propagate and turn into a disaster.

Face it! Small matters can build up little "irritation" in you, if it does not get out of your chest, someday, it will blow from your top! By then, things would have been worsened and beyond remedy.

To be in a relationship is simple... the main issue or challenge is how to maintain it.
Well, I don't like the word "maintain", it really do sound like a burden thing when you talk about it. I would prefer to say how to KeeP a relationship healthy and longlasting!

I once told it as a joke to mention about a 4 stages model of in-a-relationship:
Wooing--->Understanding--->Compromising--->Intimacy

Well, this model is surprisingly simple, and easy to be understand (or I hope so),
take jokes aside, this is not a physics or science class! This is a flow chart of a relationship.

We enter a relationship in a left to right direction of this model, and hence, calling them stage 1 to 4. So what happen after stage 4 will be a concern to most?

You go back against the flow. (from right to left)

It doesn't make sense?

Read about them in pieces of news in internet or books.
A nice lasting relationship needs to regain its sweetest feature --wooing stage, once in a while.
We also will often find shortcomings from our partner, or vice versa, and compromisation at each stage is necessary.

Eventually an Understanding stage is reached and both party could once again feel harmonious with each other, things get afresh!

Well, it is but a model, so others may have different views.
But fundamentals are very important.

I hope I could have understand more of my dear Karen, and hopefully she does too.

Love.
joo